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Here are two common questions we receive about the tricky business of potty training a child who is uncertain about how to deal with number twos.
Q: daughter, three, is great at doing wees she even wakes up to go in the night and is dry. She will not wear nappies. But we are really struggling with poos. She is not scared to sit on the toilet and will do small poos if we catch her in time. Most of the time, though, she’d rather jump around doing the ‘poo dance’ and when we say you want to go and do a poo? she just says and eventually fights off the urge until the next time. Please can you suggest anything. We are running out of soap powder!
Q: son is four in August, and has been potty trained for wees for more than a year. He will not and has never once done a poo on the potty or toilet. He only will poo in his nappy. We have tried treats, reward charts, stickers, praise, presents in the bathroom but no! Nothing. We have withheld the nappies then we get tantrums, tears and he holds himself for days or just goes in his pants. I am also at my wits end, HELP!”One of the most common and frustrating toilet training roadblocks is when a child willingly pees on the potty but demands a nappy, or uses his pants, for bowel movements. Some children will actually hold their bowel movements and create severe constipation, which further complicates the issue.
Children typically resist having a bowel movement on the toilet, or hold back from going, for these reasons:
Bowel movements take too long to wait for and an active child dislikes having to sit on the potty for the extended length of time.
After being used to the squashed sensation of stool coming out into a nappy, the feeling of letting it loose into the air is unsettling and strange.
A child is used to standing or moving during bowel movements, and sitting still on the potty is an uncomfortable change of routine.
Your child thinks the poo is part of him and doesn understand why he should flush it away.
A bad experience, such as being splashed on the bottom with urine or water during a movement, or having a messy accident, causes a child to avoid having it happen again.
Pain from a previously difficult or hard stool makes a child afraid to poo on the potty.
A current case of constipation is preventing usual elimination.
As you put your plan together consider these basic dos and don’ts.
What not to do:
Don get angry. Don scold your child or make them feel ashamed. Your little one isn doing this on purpose, they’re not trying to make you mad, and they don’t understand how to solve this any more than you do.
Don make your child sit on the toilet and or push. Bowel movements come out when the body is ready, and forcing them can create small tears in the anus (fissures) or haemorrhoids, which cause all day pain in the rectum. This will cause the child to avoid pooing even more, which leads to constipation,
which creates hard stool, which causes more hemorrhoids, and on and on and on to generate a dreadful cycle of pain and frustration.
Don let your child strain when they sit to poo. Of course, a little bit of pushing can be necessary for a normal bowel movement, but if your child is grunting, straining and forcing, it a sign that either they’re not quite ready to go, or are somewhat constipated. Have them drink a big glass of water, eat a piece of fruit and then try again in ten or twenty minutes.
Don ever make your child it. When they announce the need to go, or if you notice that their body signals are indicating a need to go, find a toilet immediately. Delaying and holding contributes to constipation and other bowel problems.
What to do:
Make certain that your child is drinking plenty of fluids all day long. Stick to water and juice (apple, pear, cranberry, grape and prune juice, but not orange or other citrus juices.)
Be sure your child eats plenty of fibre rich foods every day: vegetables (especially raw ones), fruit, wholegrains, brown rice, and oats are some examples. Avoid giving your child junk food, refined sugar, sugary fizzy drinks, sweets and chocolate.
Limit foods that constipate such as bananas, rice, apple sauce, cheese, citrus juice and fizzy drinks.
If your child has food allergies or lactose intolerance (milk products) these can cause constipation for him. If you suspect this may be true talk to your doctor.
If your child has been constipated, apply petroleum jelly or nappy ointment to her rectum before potty visits.
Make sure your child has plenty of daily exercise, which stimulates digestion, prevents constipation, and is necessary for proper elimination.
Be sure that your child is peeing every 1 to 2 hours. Regular urination is a necessary component to regular bowel movements.
Take your child to the potty first thing in the morning and ten to 30 minutes after a full meal when BMs are likely to happen.